Orgasms 101

We receive a lot of questions around orgasms. In fact our most popular events have always focused around Orgasms. A common question we receive is how do I achieve an or more orgasms. So we spoke to one of our coaches, Sexological Bodyworker Jessica Parker to help and hopefully offer you some great tips. 

What is an Orgasm?

Orgasms are incredibly personal experiences and vary from person to person however there are some general descriptions of what an orgasm could feel like

- slow build up of sexual tension and excitement followed by full body pleasurable release

- a peak of sexual pleasure

- a release of built up sexual pressure

- intense focused pinpoint of pleasure

- full on out of body experience

- a lovely sigh or little blip of pleasurable release - like a sneeze!

- tremors, tingling - state of very high energy/sensation from your pelvis up your spine and around your entire body

- its sometimes called 'coming' or 'climaxing'

Where can you feel an Orgasm?

Generally most people feel an orgasm in their genitals - vagina, g-spot, clitoris, penis, anus.

For many people the pelvic area might be the start of an orgasm and spread throughout their entire body.

What are the different types of Orgasms?

Lots of different types! Full body orgasms, energy orgasms, anal orgasms, clitoral orgasms, vaginal orgasms, G-spot orgasms, nipple/breast orgasms, kissing/oral orgasms, cervical orgasms, zone orgasms (specific erogenous sweet spots that aren't obvious erotic points), fantasy/mental orgasms, multiple orgasms, head-gasms, food-gasms.....

How to achieve an Orgasm? [Please offer your best tips to achieve an orgasm]

If you want to learn how to have one or have different types of orgasms I recommend taking the time and practicing what works well for you first (self pleasure and masturbating!) from there you come from a deeper understanding to communicate what you like with a partner - if you don't know its hard for you to expect them to know!

- variation in sensation - ideally arousing your whole body by engaging your own and/or your partners sounds, breath, touch and movement, this helps get blood flow, engorgement, natural lubrication and a full bodied awareness needed to generate deeper and full body orgasms.

- practice masturbating and notice what works for you and follow the pleasure rather than force the pleasure - play and have fun! How would you like your ideal lover to pleasure you? What would the room look, sound and feel like? What would you tell them you'd like, how would you show them? Think about this then do that for yourself!

- use verbal and non verbal communication to give feedback or direction to partners - this helps you both learn and explore!

Want to have a one to one with Jessica? Contact her here for an intro call!